Flourish: Embracing Ageless Vibrancy with Liz Murray

by Judy Griffin on August 19, 2014

Redefining Vibrant Living for Women in their 40’s, 50’s and Beyond

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I have often felt that each decade of life for me has had some type of theme and life skill to learn.

My twenties were about becoming an adult woman, navigating the corporate world (ugh!) and how to be in relationship to others. My thirties were about marriage, understanding my core essence and building a life with my husband. My forties were about motherhood (yes, I was a late bloomer!), and learning to forgive. And now I am in my fifties. As I am in the midst of the learning and experience from this decade of life, I see some themes emerging…

Body: I spent most of my life hating my body, trying to diet, exercise and starve myself into a physical version of me that would somehow be acceptable. But I could only handle this way of being for so long, until my heart hurt too much, and I would binge, sometimes for days. Hating myself, being at war with this one precious body I’ve been given. Being in my fifties has felt like freedom! I now know that I will never ever diet again. It doesn’t serve me. I also know I don’t need to strive for something that is unattainable.

I have made peace with these imperfections, as they are as much a part of me as my beautiful green eyes or my soft hair. My belly is soft, it grew a baby and is the seat of my intuition. My focus now is how do I desire to feel each day, and nourish myself accordingly. My feelings of beauty come from eating delicious, healthy food, moving my body in ways that feel pleasurable, and finding a way of dressing myself that helps me feel beautiful and expresses who I truly am. Pleasure is my guide…And now, pleasure looks like leafy greens, walks in the woods and yoga, rather than frozen “diet” food and boot-camp exercise classes. A deep knowing of what my body wants.

Career: I spent years trying to fit myself into someone else’s mold of how I should be in relationship to work. Back in the eighties, I wore suits and pantyhose (even in summer!) and carried a briefcase, as if I was playing a role I was ill-suited for. Crunching numbers, never able to really be myself. Most people who meet me now can’t believe I lived this for ten years. Soul-sucking job after job, where I didn’t even know what my real talents were.

What freedom I have now! I get to help amazing women transform their lives! My work life and “real” life are gorgeously intertwined. As I do my own deep work of personal growth, I get to lead my clients to do the same; a discovery of what really feeds them and lights them up! I get to walk upstairs to my office, feel a soft breeze on my face, light candles and play Snatum Kaur softly in the background as I sit down and write my love letters to my clients, and guide them in crafting a beautiful pleasure-filled life. When they put their trust in me by investing in themselves, it is so humbling, and I feel immense gratitude – a much different experience that getting a paycheck. Pure gorgeousness!

Relationships: This has been such a tough area for me to navigate, but I have learned so much! I was so caught in the game of “you make me feel”…..And I see now, after experiencing probably thousands of relationships of different iterations in these fifty-six years, that relationships exist to teach me about myself. They are a mirror. If I am experiencing a strong reaction toward someone else, it is time to shine the light inward, as these are really unacceptable feelings toward self. Shining light on my shadow self has allowed me to deeply understand that  we are here to learn to love ourselves by loving each other.

So what have my fifties been about? Self-love and self-acceptance. By this age, most of us have have experienced deep, painful loss. This has enabled us to really see how truly precious this life is, and to ask ourselves, do I want to waste any of it by lamenting that I will never have the body of a swimsuit model? The essence of a life well-lived is love. Love of self, love of others, our families and dear friends and the animals who depend on us, and our beautiful planet. In closing, a quote by my favorite author, Mary Oliver…

“You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.”

 

Liz Murray is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Hormone Cure Coach, and a Master-Level Transformational Coach.  Liz is a graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Before becoming a Health Coach, Liz was a Massage Therapist in Concord, MA for 13 years. Liz lives in Littleton, MA.  She supports women all over the world in making peace with their bodies and their relationship to food. Her compassionate, non-diet approach empowers women to discover their own unique version of well-being, at any size and at every age.

 

Learn about my book Flourish Beyond 50:Your Path to Vibrant Living and  consider sharing your story.

Read how my other Flourish Guests have embraced Ageless Vibrancy and be sure to share your feedback.

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Polly Leaf

Samyak Yamauchi

Carolan Deacon

Jane

Margaretha

Patsie Smith

 

 

 

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Tessa August 20, 2014 at 8:59 am

Beautiful blog and beautiful peace you have created within yourself. Such a profound stage of life with so much potential for deep happiness, new discoveries, redefining and blooming into self and life in a whole new way. You are doing such a service in the world by modeling the potential this stage has for your clients and for the world. Thank you!

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Judy Griffin August 20, 2014 at 11:31 am

I appreciate your point of view and lovely feedback Tessa and I am sure Liz will too. And yes, I agree-its all about unlocking the potential we all have inside us.

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