How does that make you feel?

by Judy Griffin on May 13, 2013

Being a healthy woman isn’t about getting on a scale or measuring your waistline. We need to start focusing on what matters- on how we feel and how we feel about ourselves. Michelle O’Bama

Being a healthy woman isn’t about getting on a scale or measuring your waistline. We need to start focusing on what matters- on how we feel and how we feel about ourselves. Michelle O’Bama

This is a question my kids are very used to. No matter what happens I always ask how does that make you feel? Or if it is something really fabulous I say, “That must make you feel good.” Through the years I have said this so much that my kids turn this question on me or poke fun at me for always asking me.

Assessing my feelings as well encouraging my kids is purely ingrained in me. It’s just something I have always been in touch with and find it easy to go right there with friends and family. Sometimes my husband will say “What are you writing a book?” I really enjoy reaching the whole story.  My philosophy on feelings is that feelings change with the wind so don’t be afraid to feel them.

Now, I just thought this was my thing. Little did I know where I got it from until I was on a phone call with my Mom last year. I don’t even remember what I shared but it was something good. My Mom’s response was “That must make you feel good?”  Well, when I heard that I burst into laughter because I realized that she had been saying that to me since I was little. No wonder why this question was so prominent and why feelings mattered so much. It was passed down to me and I didn’t even know it.

So now when I ask this question it warms my heart all the more since my Mom passed it on to me.  I wouldn’t be surprised one day if I here my kids ask this same question to my future grandchildren.

Can you think of anything that your Mom as passed on to you?

I would love for you to share it here

Ever since I was little talking about your feelings was the norm.

Ever since I was little talking about your feelings was the norm.

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The feeling is happy here.

 

 

 

"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but will never forget how you made them feel."~ Maya Angelo

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but will never forget how you made them feel.”~ Maya Angelo

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

Amanda May 20, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Amazing how far a mother’s influence can reach! Thank you for the reminder to reflect on honest responses to life situations (and encouraging others to do the same). Xo

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Judy Griffin May 30, 2013 at 7:01 pm

My pleasure Amanda. I appreciate your thoughtful comment. So glad you found it to be a worthy reminder.

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Elizabeth Scala May 30, 2013 at 6:28 pm

Hi Judy!
Great post. So first off, yes… I love asking people how it makes them feel. I believe that when we truly FEEL, feel and experience, we reap the benefits of our work. For example, setting goals and making healthy choices- when we “feel” the benefits… we are more likely to continue. When we overlook, rush, or pass by the feelings… why keep doing the healthy behaviors?

As for something my Mom passed on to me… I’d have to say it is her big, beautiful smile. Her desire to constantly learn and grow. And her jokes as she strives to be “Mary Poppins… perfect in every way…” LOL.

Thank you!
Elizabeth

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Judy Griffin May 30, 2013 at 7:04 pm

Thank you Elizabeth. I always appreciate your insightful comments. You are so right that when we rush we miss out on all the beauty there is to feel.
Sounds like you are a lot like your Mom especially with the beautiful smile.

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