How to Flourish at any age: Featuring Nancy Mindes

by Judy Griffin on November 3, 2014

Nancy is a beautiful women inside and out and lives her life with passion.

Nancy is a beautiful women inside and out and lives her life with passion.

Nancy is an amazing ambassador to Cycle for Survival.

Nancy is an amazing ambassador to Cycle for Survival.

“Why are you knocking on every other door? Go knock at the door of your own heart.” ~Rumi

Before I took a deep dive into psychoanalysis, the human potential movement: training with 7 Habits founder, Stephen Covey, Landmark Education, Coach U, Enlightened Warrior and Wizard Training camps, being a yogi, a Pilates practitioner, trance dancer, a meditator, I was a human doing. I was an ambitious-to-be-somebody 38 year old. I had gone to B-School and decided I had to be a V.P. of something at “Corporate HQ” in short order.

A sign hung in my office at “Corporate HQ” that said, “For peace of mind, resign as general manager of the universe.”
And I would think, “Easy to say, hard to do.”

It was my belief, that it was important to be a superstar in every area of life. What I discovered on my journey was that an ego-based rather than heart-centered desire was costing me big-time. What I was getting was not what I wanted.

The question I asked myself was whose ideal life was it really?

My job was big, busy and boring with a psycho-boss and being there exacted a price.

While I had some nice designer clothes, shoes and bags, I got the first of many wake-up calls when an avalanche of designer shoes rained down on me in my closet when I was rushing to make the 7:37 a.m. train to Penn Station. What on earth was I doing?

Often eating on the fly, it was a challenge to make healthful food choices. My stressed existence crept into my sleep, with clenched teeth resulting in headaches and neck pain.

Priorities were in disarray. The job left little time for family and friends, participating in community service, cut into my yoga practice, and dance classes.

Every few months after being on the merry go-round to what seemed like success, the big collapse would take place on the couch with bronchitis and general exhaustion. Those were the moments I started to think, “Hmm, something is not quite right.”

I knew that for peace of mind I would be well served to listen to the whispers of my intuition and find another definition of success.

This was not an easy transition, my ego kept pulling me back but I followed one of the basic principles of attraction, to perfect my world around me. I began looking around at my options and in 1998 I changed jobs to a fashion related non-profit that used my talents better and I began my coach training at Coach University.

“Trust your intuition, it’s just like going fishin’.” ~Paul Simon

When I turned 50 at the end of 2001, my heart told me to step back again. I had just completed my 3+ years of professional coach training and then I created a job-share situation that enabled me to stay at the job I liked and to ease myself into the next step of my professional reinvention.

The transformation of my life, led to possibilities and transformation for the clients who came to me because their life just was not working the way they wanted.

I asked my clients to do as I was doing to keep a gratitude journal. My instructions: each evening before bed, add 5 gratitude entries in a notebook.

I saw a happy reinvention along the way: one client sold a textile design company in New York City she no longer enjoyed. She let go of her expensive apartment in Manhattan, selling at a good price, which gave her the financing to train to become a Pilates instructor and then open a successful studio in Sag Harbor, NY.

Ever the entrepreneur, she also owns a successful boutique and while she has a lot to handle, she is doing what she enjoys and connecting with people and making money doing it. She is living in a community she enjoys. This gal is doing life with a flourish.

“Trust your intuition, it’s just like going fishin’.” ~Paul Simon

  • To flourish means to thrive and grow luxuriantly.
  • Each of us has our own idea of what that means.
  • Here are a few that I have had to learn (and re-learn) along the way.
  • Listen to your heart.
  • Invest yourself in a fulfilling life.
  • Watch what you say to yourself. (Treat yourself like a dear friend.)
  • Look for incremental ways to make changes. (This is does not happen overnight.)
  • Do work you love and the universe will pull you along. (You will still have to do the work, sorry.)
  • Let go of time suckers and dump emotional vampires.
  • Give up blame and complaints when you talk. (You may find you have very little to say.)
  • Stop doing what is bad for you. (Don’t compare yourself to others.)
  • Uncover what feeds your soul and go do it.
  • Shake your booty.
  • Laugh.
  • Dance.
  • Practice yoga.
  • Stretch yourself. Lighten up.
  • Spin. Skate.
  • Laugh.
  • Draw. Write. Paint. Garden. Sing. (even if it is only in the shower)
  • Hug.
  • Meditate.
  • Eat only foods that nourish you. (Break up with pop tarts.)
  • Live as if there is only this moment. (Yup, that’s it!)

What does your heart tell you?

Make your own list.

Begin, the rest is easy.

Connect with Nancy by visiting www.fancynancysays.com

Flourish Beyond 50:Your Path to Vibrant Living is now available for purchase. Get your signed copy and consider attending the Book Launch Party on Nov, 12, 2014 5:00-7:00 p.m. This book will also be available on Amazon soon.

Learn how Flourish Beyond 50:Your Path to Vibrant Living became a book.  Consider sharing your story for the blog.

Read how my other Flourish Guests have embraced Ageless Vibrancy and be sure to share your feedback.

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Samyak Yamauchi

Carolan Deacon

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