Showing up in your life

by Judy Griffin on March 29, 2013

The Griffin's & the Gebhardt's Easter Break 2003

The Griffin’s & the Gebhardt’s Easter Break 2003. (Couldn’t access a photo with my boys.)

So much fun in Puerta Plata

So much fun in Puerta Plata











Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. – Marcel Proust


I am so grateful for having my  very special friend  Sue in my life for so many years.  Each year as we mark the anniversary of her passing on March 24th, I choose to celebrate how truly amazing she was. I don’t think there will ever be a time when I don’t wish I could reach out and talk to her, give her a hug, or hear her laugh.  I love the many reminders of her that I see in her family.  When we get together and laugh I feel like we have a piece of her back.

One thing that always strikes me is how her remarkable presence touched so many lives. Sue was a beautiful, genuine, strong, gentle, intelligent, courageous, humble and talented woman.  She was an incredible wife, mom, daughter, sister, aunt and friend.  She always showed up with love, sunshine, grace, and compassion.  In fact, I have yet to meet a more compassionate person. She shared in your happiness and celebrated the good times but more importantly she listened, supported, and embraced you in the sad times. Sue was a true gift to her family and friends and I know we all  miss her smiles, hugs and beautiful presence.

This got me thinking about how much showing up matters.  How do you show up in your life? Is the best of you shining through? Or is something holding your back?

Can you remember the last time you really laughed and had a good time? Perhaps you can’t because you are feeling stressed, tired, and overwhelmed.   As parents, nurturers, caretakers, and practitioners we can often get lost in the shuffle. It is so important to remember that when we  nurture ourselves we  thrive and as a result have that much more love and care to offer our loved ones.

Of course weaving in a sense of harmony into the dance of life can be a constant challenge. I can attest to that! But a little sunshine, joy, and nourishment can go a long way.

How would your life change if you felt energized, joyful, and truly nourished?  I invite you to find out by joining my Free Nourish to Flourish Virtual Wellness Program.  During these 10 days we’ll be exploring the many ways to nourish our body, our soul, and our life. You’ll be planting the seeds for vibrant living so you can blossom and flourish just like a luscious garden.

Isn’t it time you start celebrating your life? I would love to hear from you. Please post a comment. How do you celebrate your life each day and what struggle gets in the way?


Bermuda 2001- Fun nights, delicious dining, & beautiful beach days in our respite away with the guys & no kids.

Bermuda 2001- Fun nights, delicious dining, & beautiful beach days in our respite away with the guys & no kids.

{ 20 comments… read them below or add one }

Megan Ferrick March 29, 2013 at 1:03 pm

Great post Judy. I love that you loved your friend this much. I have friends that are more like sisters and I can’t imagine losing them. For me, celebrating life is living in gratitude that I’m blessed with a healthy immediate and extended family. We all have struggles and issues but God has been very good and I celebrate that every day. Keep up the great writing!


Judy Griffin March 29, 2013 at 1:09 pm

Thank you so much for reading Megan. I really appreciate your encouraging & heartfelt feedback. So glad you have some Soul Sisters in your life. Sue was that for me. Love your positive & grateful outlook and also that no matter what I always see you with a beautiful smile.


Carolan March 29, 2013 at 1:29 pm

This touched me…I can feel the love you have for her and for her family. A beautiful thing to witness.


Judy Griffin March 29, 2013 at 1:40 pm

THank you so much Carolan. I appreciate your feedback.


Teri March 29, 2013 at 4:46 pm

This was a very touching blog. Your friendship was heartwarming and reminds me of all my wonderful friends and how grateful I am for them and my family.
You are so right in saying we must show up in life! Besides wasting our God given talents, we have little or nothing to give to others if we don’t step up and take care of ourselves first; especially we women who tend to put everyone before ourselves. Thank you for sharing.


Judy Griffin March 29, 2013 at 6:11 pm

Dear Teri, Thank you for heartfelt response. I really appreciate your lovely feedback and insight.


Mary March 29, 2013 at 5:04 pm

What a beautiful story and an important reminder to be present in our day with family and friends. Life is so busy but it is so important to stop and look around and savor the moments. Thanks for sharing Judy.


Judy Griffin March 30, 2013 at 6:06 am

I really appreciate your thoughtful response Mary. Than you for taking the time to read and share your thoughts. You said it well in “savoring the moments.”


Elizabeth Scala March 30, 2013 at 1:09 pm

Wonderful post, Judy. I love your idea of reflecting on how when we show up. When we show up with joy and gratitude and beautiful energy- that’s what shows up more and more for us. We get what we give. I love it! I celebrate my life by spending time in nature, dancing with my doggies which always makes me laugh, smiling as much as possible inside and out, and sharing my enthusiastic energy in the work that I do. I also celebrate my own self through Yoga, cooking, and reading/writing. Thanks for asking!! Let’s see and the struggles that get in the way- well, to be honest, the inner critic that still tries to take over. But I am doing better and better at letting go and releasing old patterns. Have a healthy day,


Judy Griffin March 30, 2013 at 3:27 pm

Thank you so much Elizabeth. I really appreciate your insight and feedback. You are so right about what we focus on we find. From your posts and the beautiful work you do I can tell you live your life with great zest. I love how you celebrate life your life and make time for you. Yes that inner critic can be annoying. Be well.


Marina Carter March 31, 2013 at 7:19 pm

I like the idea of showing up to your life. I was recently diagnosed with severe sleep apnea. I was so tired all the time and all I wanted to do was sleep whenever I had any free time. I tried to get energy by eating and drinking caffeine so I would not fall asleep while driving. My husband said I had abandoned the family. I have used my machine for breathing at night (two months now), and I’ve started to get my life back. i’m going to the gym now and I have cut down on processed foods. I want to show up to my life again. I told a friend at the gym and she gave me your name and encouraged me to search on facebook


Judy Griffin March 31, 2013 at 8:43 pm

Thank you for sharing your inspiring story Marina. Sorry to hear about the Sleep Apnea but I am glad to hear that you have found some relief and are able to embrace your life again. You are not alone. So many women turn to caffeine & sugar for energy. Great that you found these culprits which in the end zap your energy and increase your cravings. Good for you that you are cutting down on processed foods. So wonderful that you are ready to show up in your life again. I am so glad you found me and I really encourage you to join my Free Nourish to Flourish Wellness Program which starts tomorrow. I think it would be a great fit for you. Be well, Judy


Alison April 2, 2013 at 3:49 pm

Showing up is so important . I too feel many of us are here but not present! Take the time to stop and smell the roses, enjoy your spouse, your kids, your family, and your friends you never know when you time to be present and check in will come to an end. Thank you for sharing


Judy Griffin April 3, 2013 at 9:11 pm

Thank you for reading & sharing your thoughts Allison. You make a great point about being present. I appreciate your feedback.


pat April 13, 2013 at 2:08 pm

thanks so much judy We need to take time to appreciate the here and now.


Judy Griffin April 14, 2013 at 7:48 am

Exactly Pat. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


Lee April 17, 2013 at 7:56 am

A lovely tribute to your dear friend.! Yesterday was my Mom’s 80 th birthday, but I lost her 5 years ago. Although the day started sad and melancholy, I am blessed to be with 5 dear friends, vacationing and doing something we love- scuba diving. My Mom would have embraced this experience with excitement and passion- she loved the sea and its creatures. She commented often on how she loved the stories and laughter she saw when these friends came to visit. So, I embraced the day and felt her spirit dancing freely about by my side! <3 I am truly blessed!


Judy Griffin April 17, 2013 at 8:50 am

Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story and tribute to your Mom Lee. We never stop missing the ones we love. It is so wonderful that surrounded with special friends and the beauty of the sea you can embrace delightful memories of your beloved Mom’s essence. I love that you felt her joyfully dancing at your side.


Lorrie April 27, 2013 at 6:02 am

I think that mothers in particular have difficulty
Finding time for ourselves without the “guilt”
I’m working on finding 15 min a day …not easy
But I’m going to do it! The calm heart meditation
Is great! Being in the present and taking one
Day at a time is key “for my survival” lol 🙂


Judy Griffin April 27, 2013 at 8:03 am

Yes I so agree Lorrie which I was I try to encourage women to prioritize self-care & self-nourishment. So glad to hear how determined you are to make time for you. Then everyone benefits. I love your idea about carving out 15 minutes daily. Just perfect & the Calm Heart Meditation will be so helpful. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


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